Unwritten Rules & Confessions

As I reflect on my rejections, my guy problems... not really guy problems, (cuz I don't have a guy.) But the problem is I don't "like" the ones that like me and I tend to like the ones who wouldn't. No worries, I'm having the time of my life... it just got me thinking. I realize the same patterns reflected with other interactions I have. And I have started to figure it out.

Unwritten Rules:

1. If you initiate the conversation with someone every single time, it seems like they don't really care about you, yeah? ...If you text a guy first every time, you're as annoying as the guy who texts you 24/7. And vice versa.

What do you do? If it's just not moving, then move on. :(

2. When you're in a relationship with someone and your friends ask... "is he a good kisser? Why do you like him?" You say, "oh yeah... he's an awesome kisser!" He's blah blah blah. And then when you break up, it changes to... "he wasn't even fun to kiss," "he made all the moves..." "he put on a show for me." (Guilty) 

How many people have said that about me?... "I really don't even know why I liked her" ...kinda sad to think about. ...It's okay to say the good things!

3. When someone doesn't like someone because they were a jerk to them or they did something or other... they expect their friends to not like them too. That's when people just need to grow up! Life doesn't work like that... and if it did, we'd all be haters.

4. When people say... "I just don't want a relationship right now." They might actually think that, then they might be in one the next week. And I think this is not because they "lied" or whatever else. I think it's because the thought of a relationship with that particular person is not what they are looking for. 

5. "I just need time to think about things, to figure out myself" and then they start dating... (Guilty!) This is because yeah, that's part of figuring out yourself, "trying on the pants" to seeing what you want.

6. Relationships are between person A and person B, don't get yourself involved (as a sister, as a friend, as a mother, father, grandma, aunt, acquaintance), it's "noneya" ...and often creates worse problems.

7. Don't be led on by flirty, friendly guys. In your mind you think, oh he hugged me and he asked for my number... he must like me. Stay around long enough, and you see that they'll do the same routine about fifty times a night...

Also don't be led on by flirting, just as you wish your "flirty" personality wouldn't mislead others.

8. If you send a text that says "hey what's up" ten times a week... I'm gonna stop replying, and hey you might even be a great friend... but I am no longer a texter just to text "not much you?" "nm.." "nice" conversations. Start a conversation with me? And I'll write back! Same goes for a lot of people, I'd assume...

I decided all of these because I've experienced all of them first hand at one point and time... it's just what goes around comes around I guess.

Confessions: 

Confession 1: I appreciate approval. I love to be liked (not like-liked), just liked. I love it when people think I'm cool or funny, when they want to see me and hang-out... but what's more important? I love when people can rely on me and trust me. I love to be the person people can come to, I love to deliver the meals to the sickees in bed, the notes to the best friends... and that part is not for approval, that's not to "win or buy" a friendship... that's because it makes me feel good, to make others feel good. Cuz I've been there and there's nothing better than someone make your day.

Confession 2: I get little crushes really easily these days. And just sometimes seeing the people is enough to make my day. (I say it in plural because crushes come and go... nothing too serious... so don't worry Grandma Falter HAHA.) 

I try to play it smart... and get my way, but you can only do so much to get Tai Wesley to notice you. 

Just kidding, Tai is great and all, but the people I speak of I actually know... and I wish that one day it will work out in my favor and I'll get a hot date out of all my sneaky/slightly OBVIOUS hints!

Confession 3: Sometimes I want to confess how I feel about everyone just straight to them... then I think of the after effect, not as flattering. 

So I will tough it out and whatever happens happens... in the slow world of patience.