Reading signs, sending signals, flirting, avoiding, learning, creeping, texting, calling, talking, wording things perfectly, facing rejection, knowing when enough is enough... it's all part of the chase.
I like the chase, I guess it keeps me entertained. I like meeting new people, starting new relationships, trying to pick up what people are putting down... the first stages of a crush with the text and replies that flow perfectly. When looking at someone just the right way sends butterflies up your spine.
And on the other hand, the chase can be super frustrating, when what you're doing isn't working, when they aren't picking up what you are really trying to put down; when someone who you don't want to be chasing you is chasing you; when the are too many options, you don't know which route to go.
I feel like I've been in on these chases (one way or another--being chased or doing the chasing) since I've been single in college. I'm the type of girl who loved just being committed to one person, loved being special to just one person... and not much else mattered. Now that I'm in on the dating game, and feeeeeeeweeeoeoe... it is work, it is excitement and it is disappointment... all at the same time.
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It is work to know when to tone down your signs, when to read sings, how to read them. It sucks thinking you're in, then not getting a phone call for like three weeks after a night that went perfectly... it sucks having that realization... giving up and then seeing the person again only to get reeled back into the chase.
Girls, guys-- ya feel me?
Girls, guys-- ya feel me?
Eh, just GO for it. If you lose, you lose. And then move on. I seriously keep going out on limbs... and it's been working. It can kinda be embarrassing, but so far it's been worth it.
A problem that I think I see boys have more than girls though, is when to end the chase. Like, I can read signs, and when someone's not interested, they aren't interested... the end.
You know what I can't wait for?
When the chase is over... and I have the ultimate prize.
**JUST FOR CLARIFICATION: I don't mean the chase with person in particular, I mean the chase with all together... no more awkward first dates, no more seeking and searching, no more hinting and trying... when I can just find the one.**
**JUST FOR CLARIFICATION: I don't mean the chase with person in particular, I mean the chase with all together... no more awkward first dates, no more seeking and searching, no more hinting and trying... when I can just find the one.**
Awkward situations = Hilarious stories to tell.
Rejections = A way to be humbled.
Success = Success
What have ya got to lose...?
The right one is out there, but enjoy the chase.
ReplyDeleteYou have lots of time to enjoy life before it gets too serious. You will know when you have found him!!! That will be one lucky boy~~~~
Love, Grandma Falter
Just to let ya know there have been a number of GIRLS who have not learned to take the hint to STOP their "chase". I've had to be especially blunt at times. I dont think its a matter of gender but how desperate an individual is; and believe me, there are some reeeeeeeeeeally desperate people out there. Its scary. Oh well, good luck!
ReplyDeletePS: I think its awesome that you play guitar and I want to hear you play sometime in the distant future.
A game that has no real rules is hard to play yet thats what makes it exciting. with no clear lines you have to find your own way to play. the question is do we play to play, or play to win? cause when you win(find that special someone) it's also game over. there is no clear answer, especially because we think we are playing for keeps. whether we really are or not usually is revealed by hindsight. I'm playing to win, but we all probably say that.
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Zach who?
ReplyDeleteAnd nobody, I really like your comment.
Winning is not game over like fail though, it's like beating the game. :)
Ya gotta be kidding me....you know more than one Zach? ...Cleveland
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