Boys Will Be Girls

We learned about the difference between boys and girls in my Marriage and Family class today. Boys tend to like doing things when they get together, and girls really like to just have conversation. Women like to have conversation where they can connect... Men are more competitive... for example, their conversations turn into one-upping... they have this mindset of like "winning" a conversation.

I've realized that this is SO true. I don't like that. Don't one-up me, connect with me... and some boys most definitely do. And there there are boys who don't act like boys at all except the muscles, lack of hygiene and obvious parts.

Do you know what I can't stand more than anything? When my life is utterly hectic and people choose to add to chaos that out of no where. I have seriously been in class, meetings or in my room doing homework the last three days (aside from the basketball game and lunch with my gorgeous Aunt). I haven't hung out with my best friends, didn't ditch them for any other friends, haven't gone to Hyde Park to see family... I've been literally swamped. Which is exactly what happens when you take sixteen credits, an institute class, the out-of-state recruitment team and work. I've never had more homework or things to do in college til this week and I'm in class all day so when do you expect me to do it? Well, obviously in the night time, so goodbye social life.

Goodbye social life... 

HELLO UNCALLED FOR DRAMA!!!!!

I have a good time when I'm busy. I like being productive, I like my homework-get-things-done nights. I like to be home and to see my sister more. I like to get good grades. I like to work and be involved in my school. I love my church and school life. I seriously love having all this to do.

So why am I so stressed lately? Well because on top of everything I have to do... I have boy drama to deal with. Ask me if I even have a boyfriend.

You: "Lauren do you even have a boyfriend?"

NO, No I don't. And that is why. Because there's so much drama about this. I'm not saying there is with any boyfriend and every boyfriend. But in this particular case, I can't move my face the wrong way without offending someone in the room or giving attention to the wrong person... I can't even write a silly facebook status without getting grief. (fyi, not you M.L.)

I may have told a certain person I don't want a relationship, but it doesn't mean I don't care about them as a friend. Really all I want is to be a good friend. I try so hard to make sure all my friends can trust me and talk to me... that I will hang out with them, that I will see them regularly and I do genuinely care. And what do I get?

Direct quote to Lauren Falter (for more quotes from the same person refer to this blog click here :)): "And you don't just not want a relationship! You just want attention and to be a player and can't look like you like me or that would ruin all your side flings"

Let. Me. Break. That. Down.

In order for this statement to be true, I'd be seeking attention. I could do this various ways...

Outfits? Well, I could probably wear some hot bikini in the hot tub. Mm.

Probably some hot boots and lacy tights. Ow Ow.

I'd probably wear some short skirts, low shirts. Ay, Ayyy Rrrr (roll the r).

Hair? Hm, I'd probably do it every day... thats for sure.

Make-up? Likewise.

What'd I say? Well if I really want some quick attention I'd probably cuss, I'd probably be vulgar... that's what attention you seem to love.

I do love attention. The right kind though. I like the kind of attention that my mother gives me, the kind that my sister gives me, the kind that my preschooler at work gives me or my class in relief society. I like to have people's attention when I'm talking to them, but no I'm not just out to get attention all the time.

The second point: "side fling" and "a player?"

I'd have to have side flings... 'nuff said?
Just by the number of guys I've kissed would be an indicator of that lie.

When boys are losing a girl or an argument, why do they resort to saying "slut," or "player" or... other words that probably aren't even appropriate for me to type, really... if a girl doesn't stay with you forever that doesn't make her one of those... if a girl moves on from you and your controlling, dramatic relationship... those words don't suddenly define her. This ALWAYS happens. Immaturity......

Funny Story: Since I've been in college... I haven't had drama with a single girl... they've all been boys. Imagine that. The world is going crazy. From the mind of my wise best friend, "There's birth control in the water..."

The good news is boys who are jerks... and hurt my feelings inspire work-outs... finally taking a nice long, cold run through campus. Always looking for the positives! ;)